LoudInside exists for people who live with a lot going on beneath the surface.
Not the kind of anger that looks explosive from the outside:
- but the quiet kind.
- The kind that builds.
- The kind that leaks out sideways through silence, sarcasm, withdrawal, or resentment.
This is a space for people who have realised something important and uncomfortable:
“I’m not a bad person — but my behaviour is hurting the people I love.”
- I’m not a therapist.
- I’m not a coach.
- I’m not here to tell anyone how to live.
I’m someone still learning how to contain my own anger, regulate my emotions, and take responsibility for the impact I have on my relationships – especially my marriage.
LoudInside is a record of that work, written honestly and without pretending it’s finished.
Why This Exists
For a long time, I didn’t think I had anger issues.
- I thought I was just frustrated.
- Or tired.
- Or misunderstood.
But over time, I began to see patterns I couldn’t ignore:
- Shutting down during conflict.
- Holding resentment instead of speaking early.
- Becoming passive-aggressive instead of honest.
- Hurting people I cared about without meaning to.
LoudInside exists because ignoring those patterns nearly cost me the things that matter most.
This site isn’t about blame or shame.
It’s about awareness, responsibility, and learning how to pause before damage is done.
What You’ll Find Here
Each post is built around lived experience, reflection, and practical containment – not theory or perfection.
You’ll find writing about:
- Anger that doesn’t look like anger.
- Passive aggression and emotional withdrawal.
- Communication under pressure.
- Emotional regulation and self-responsibility.
- Repair, accountability, and learning to be safer to be around.
This isn’t about “fixing” yourself.
It’s about understanding yourself well enough to choose differently.
What This Is Not
LoudInside is not:
- A replacement for therapy.
- A place for blaming partners or exes.
- A space for venting without responsibility.
- Advice from someone who has it all figured out.
If you’re looking for quick fixes, validation for harmful behaviour, or someone to take your side in a conflict – this probably isn’t for you.
Who This Is For
This space is for people who:
- Feel emotionally loud inside but quiet on the outside.
- Struggle with anger, shutdown, or passive aggression.
- Want to take responsibility without destroying themselves with shame.
- Care deeply about their relationships.
- Are willing to look at themselves honestly, even when it’s uncomfortable.
You don’t need to be “healed” to be here.
You just need to be willing to pay attention.
A Final Note
I’m still learning.
I still get things wrong.
This work is ongoing.
LoudInside isn’t about becoming perfect – it’s about becoming aware, contained, and safer to live alongside.
If any of this feels familiar, you’re not alone.